Recently, a friend and I had a rough patch which consist of very rude comments, complete ignoring each other, dragging others in, and being far to stubborn to actually talk to each other and figure it out. I blame our similar personalities. :P Well, I knew I needed to get over it and forgive and move on but it was hard when I felt like they didn't care while they thought I didn't care. It was a long, painful and sometimes tearful experience. It didn't feel like any of my prayers were getting answers so I asked my bishop for ideas; after a few days of sincere praying, pondering the scriptures, and reading "Hidden Wedges" I started to see my answer.
"The spirit must be freed from tethers so strong, and feelings never put to rest, so that the lift of life may give buoyancy to the soul. There are hurt feelings and reluctance to forgive. It doesn't really matter what the issue was. It cannot and should not be left to injure."
* This showed me that I couldn't just wait and wish upon the evening star for things to get better. I needed to buck up, swallowed my fears, and talk out both sides of our fight and move on. That won't mean things will go back to normal but they'll be better.
"Blame keeps the wounds open. Only forgiveness heals." *This was a large quote for me. I highlighted, underlined, boxed, and probably abused these two sentences. Blame is something we as human being want to do. That's all my friend and I seem to do, blame each other as the reasons for our struggling friendship.
To my friend: I am sorry. It's not my first time apologizing and I know you've apologized multiple times. But I wanted you to read this and realized that I have forgiven you. I'm over it, honestly, I am. To be perfectly truthful, I just want my friend back. The one that I met last year in choir and have inside jokes that must be written in stone. I know things may not be the way they were exactly but I'd like my friend back. I hope you can take this and possibly we can start this friendship over again. (:
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